As someone who didn’t like uncertainties, being in control had become an unconscious act.
With her meticulous planning she was able to keep her life in place but when things went on the rocks with him no amount of planning or control came to her rescue.
The pain had exposed her to the bitter fact of life about things that are beyond her control.
It didn’t take her long to identify things that she can and cannot control.
She knew that taking charge of her outlook, her choices and her response to various situations was in her control.
But, regulating what other people think and feel wasn’t in her power.
The shift in the paradigm started with her closed attitude towards change.
She figured that no matter how much she resists change, it’s inevitable and she cannot control it from happening.
Whether it’s the personal or professional front, nothing stays unscathed from change.
She had also grasped that she has no control over other people’s reaction irrespective how close they are to her.
But, at the same time how long she stays in a relationship was in her control. Likewise, her past was beyond her control but preserving or not preserving the past was within her power.
She felt empowered by the time it occurred to her that true love is not her in control, but she can regulate the expectation of being loved in the same manner.
Liberating her, this revelation helped her gain the essence of true unconditional love.