Something that she viewed as valuing the relationship, was clearly coming across as needy – needy for attention, validation and assurance.
A random self-evaluation led her towards her limitations which had impacted her connection with many people. Being needy featured on top of the list and her overflowing attention to him was a testimony to the fact. That’s how she had set herself up for a let-down.
Introspection revealed that she had been putting in more efforts in all her relationships than required. Even though she had never vocalised any need for exclusive attention, her friends, family and him, had perceived her to be operating from a place of neediness.
The intensity of her overtly excited self was most visible during her fleeting time with him, particularly when he was moving away. A series of unanswered texts were speaking volumes about her desperation and neediness.
Being ultra-agreeable with him was another aspect that had indicated her insecurity and the need to be accepted.
Despite being self-sufficient she ended up exhibiting needy and clingy behaviour. Ironically, his flaky behaviour didn’t appear deceptive whereas her thoughtful efforts were perceived as neediness. With a smirk, she wondered about the dualities of life.