Her time with him was marked with red flags that she had refused to acknowledge and she bore the brunt for it. The biggest one was not accepting that he was more interested in keeping him relevant to her than actually being interested in her.
With a bleeding heart, she accepted of being a victim of breadcrumbing.
In hindsight, many intricate situations get clarity on their own and his cold and distant behaviour was one of them.
What she saw as hot and cold was actually nothing but breadcrumbing where he was just stringing her along without getting emotionally involved with her. He became her ‘kind of a boyfriend’ who was responding affectionately only to disappear after a short while, leaving her anxious with her unsettled emotions.
She remembered how her text, ‘I miss you’ was met with ‘I miss myself’ and totally brushing off her feelings by continuously grumbling about his taxing job. This was the time when he was emotionally manipulating her by going back and forth with her.
The day he felt that she may stop seeing him he would send across an intimate text to ensure her stay on his tenterhook. This was the maximum effort he was putting in their connection.
With his erratic messaging he was leading her on but wasn’t reciprocating when the ball was reaching his court.
She couldn’t decipher his ambiguity as she was looking at him with rose-tinted glasses and was hanging on to the guy who made her feel special at the beginning. She pondered, “Was it her own need for attention or his knack for toying with emotions that had trapped her?”