The notification sound on her phone was niggling her today. It was from her college group where she had ended up locking horns with one of her friends. She was stupefied when a general discussion on relationships had turned into a heated argument.
She recollected how much effort she had put in getting the same set of friends together once their college was over. She had always been the conversation initiator on the group and was the first one to remind everyone about their cherished memories.
Perhaps this was one of few times when she stressed on her point of view which didn’t exactly match with the opinion of her friends and the friendly discussion spun into a battleground.
This episode kept replaying in her the mind until she messaged her friend to clarify how she didn’t mean to negate her and was only expressing her opinion.
The incidence made her reflect on how she might be a subtle people pleaser and how this pattern of over-giving had spilled over to her relationship with him as well. Possibly, this trait had made her overcommit to him too.
By the time she reached the relationship crossroads with him, it was too late to fix the disproportionate emotional investment. After realizing that the onus of their connection was not on her alone, she liberated herself by moving away from him. This is precisely what she did with her friend in question too and deleted her number from her contact list.